Where Does Innocence Lead Us? Can We Find Our Soul Mates This Way?

Everyone is innocent in some way.  In the same context most people have some fear of being judged.  It does not mean that we cannot portray who we really are.  Because the rejection just gets more and more difficult the longer we live a lie doesn’t it?

One of my friends was a very late bloomer and I try to give her advice whenever I have the free time because back when I really needed it there was not anyone there to guide me in the right direction.  Ironically right now, two of my best girl friends (who also have the same name) not only live all the way on the other side of the country, but they are total opposites and they keep me forever grounded.  While one has been through everything I now experience and can tell me what fork in the road is ideal, the other has only dated two males ever and gets hopelessly lost in the dating world. These 2 stand out amongst the rest and I am more than thankful for it. Moving across country opened my eyes to who my true friends actually are.

When a male finds out how innocent you are it can go many ways, but often times women end up lost.  Unsure of what to say and then what if the male is already speaking to other women who know exactly what to say and he loses interest?  50 Shades of Grey shows how a submissive personality can stand out to the right man, but you need to be open and go with the flow in this case. 

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If you are experienced you can choose to have the control.  Thus where does that leave you?  As the intimidator? Or do you simply carry that I don’t give a fuck glow that men can sense from miles and miles away.  It is all about confidence and this means you are less likely to be taken advantage of.

Find your true friends that you can share everything with…I’m someone who is known to be upfront and forward from the start.  I test people so I can get a true reading of who will except me and be there for me.  Life is too short to wonder if someone will be ok with how you grew up or even the odd interests you may have.  The friends I have are incredible because they accept me for me and I get emotional over how lucky I am for that sometimes.  I used to have the “party” friends in college and sure they are fun, but what happens when something of significance happens in your life.  Shouldn’t your party friends me the same people you can cry with, who will bend over backwards for you and send a few loving words when you are down?

Treat your dating life in the same way.  Be open and honest and do not let them slowly realize who you are.  I also have many stunning males in my life (and by stunning I do not mean physically).  Most of them I have never dated, but they stand by my side because of the impression I leave.  

Do you and love those unconditionally that appreciate you for it because you will find yourself unable to ever be unhappy for too long when you have so many people to lift you.